When a couple gets divorced, one partner has often found someone else and is prepared to leave the relationship. The other person is often terribly hurt and does not understand why this happened. The partner that has found someone often works hard to convince the person they are leaving it is their own fault. The person trying to cope with this sudden loss of their relationship is confused and unable to cope. It is no wonder they are not willing to jump right into another relationship.

The person that loses in the divorce is the unprepared partner. Between the pain of being blindsided and taken advantage of, they are busy seeking answers. They have been blamed for the split, and often try to find out where they went wrong. This makes it terribly difficult for them to move on and find someone worthy of their love and companionship.